People are hung up on what we do rather than what we are. What are we looking for in a marriage? Life-long love and commitment? Or life-long fancy vehicles and designer hand bags? (Are we even looking for marriage?) It shouldn't matter what a person does. We might benefit from looking for a spouse that is going to treat us like gold, not one that will just make sure we get our monthly supply of it.
For myself, when it comes to measuring my self-worth I've realized that I see things much more clearly when I have my priorities straight. Sometimes I get discouraged if I can't afford the clothes that I would like to wear, or I get jealous when other people's circumstances seem more desirable. But if my happiness depends on "things" then I will always be waiting for the next best. I have found that my happiness very much depends on how I am living, not what I own.
I'm not trying to say that having nice things or having a well-paying job is bad. I've met people with big incomes who have very happy, loving, Christ-centred homes. But I have also witnessed families who have very little and are so full of joy it's contagious. As well, a few years back I travelled to India and saw poverty we can't imagine and those beautiful people sure opened my eyes to what you "need" to be happy. I saw more smiling faces in those slums than I have ever seen walking down a busy street in Canada.
I know from experience that I am so content when I am making time for God in my life.
I know from experience that I feel amazing if I'm exercising and eating things that are the colour green. (As opposed to my diet of various kinds of sugar, flour and cheesy things).
I also know from experience that 8 hours of sleep does wonders for my attitude and my energy. (Although this is relative to how many kids you have...sometimes 4 hours is a victory!)
And finally, time spent with people rather than things is so much more fulfilling, and life giving!
Personally, I would feel truly accomplished if I could simply master those 4 things. Heck, I would feel accomplished if I could do at least one of those on a daily basis! So, that is what I'm going to try to do! Sounds simple enough right?